I know you guys are with me right? Eating too much or something you know you shouldn't eat... then you're paying for it breaking your ass in the gym and feeling guilty for every single bite. Yucky! And we do it with other areas of our life too. It's not just food. We stay in relationships we know are no good for us. Yucky! We stay in jobs that don't make us happy or fulfilled. Yucky! We keep friendships with people that don't make us feel good. Yucky! Or even simple things like hitting the snooze button one too many times, knowing that it's going to make you late and you spend what could be an otherwise normal morning getting ready and turn it into a complete cluster fuck, forgetting your lunch, leaving your ID badge on the counter, speeding and almost getting into an accident on your way to work. Yucky! Going out to dinner with girlfriends before payday when you know you don't REALLY have the money for it, and spend the rest of the week stressing about how you're going to run out of gas if you don't fill up soon. Yuck, yuck, yuck!!! Why do we do it? We're all smart people. We know there will be consequences for our actions. We aren't just oblivious beings, aimlessly roaming around the planet unaware of the things we do and how they make us feel. So WHY purposely do things that we know give us the yuck factor?
I read an article a while back about this subject. It basically said that there are four key things that we need to do, if we want to stop doing things that we know are bad for us.
1.) Be aware of what we're doing or what we are about to do and how that will make us feel
2.) Decide what we should do instead, and what would make us feel better
3.) Having another way to release whatever tension or pull we feel to make us do the bad thing in question. Otherwise, our primal instincts will kick in and completely overrule any good decision making we could do
4.) Having some kind of system in place to keep us on track and not let us revert to old/bad habits
By utilizing those 4 rules, tools, whatever you want to call them... you learn to harness your own power, attention and you learn to truly be present in the moment.
I'm definitely going to start implementing this in my life. Starting... NOW! Baby steps first. Let's start with no more pop tarts and french fries, shall we? Haha! Then I can start working on the good stuff! :)
I'd love to hear any experiences you guys have had with this kind of thing. Are you someone that sabotages your own success in some way? What are your thoughts?
Yes! I do this with sweets all the time. (BTW, pumpkin pie pop tarts exist!?) And hitting the snooze button millions of times? GUILTY! I've been working on this whole self sabotage thing. Baby steps is a good way to go. I also think accountability helps. Next time you find yourself faced with a pumpkin pie pop tart or a plate of cheesy fries call me and I'll take them off your hands (just kidding, I mean...I will talk you out of it.) Talking to someone who will peer pressure you into making a good decision for yourself helps (I think it falls under #4?).
ReplyDeleteit took me a very long time to give up dairy products due to their vomit-inducing effect on me, but cheesecake was my "pumpkin poptart" and it took many nauseating evenings before i realized how little that delicious cake was worth. baby steps help and so does remembering how miserable you feel after
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